Lost connection

Pondering on the barriers to human connection. Especially now when there are fewer incentives to cultivate new relational spaces. As I wrote this poem, I was overcome with deep sadness and grief. I hope for our outlook to change and a new wave of relatedness. How does one make a warm connection in a worldContinue reading “Lost connection”


I have come out of a 2-day workshop. I have an yearning to deepen my connection with the body and its resourcefulness. Each day, I feel enamoured by its beauty, intelligence and wisdom. This poem comes from a well of sadness that embodied knowing does not find its rightful place in therapy & life. AnContinue reading “Body-Language”

Relationship is the goal of therapy

As a therapist in my early days, I got reprimanded for privileging relational connection, trust and safety. Somehow, the attention (then) was on being distanced, formal and objective. The persona of the therapist was bigger than their personhood. Authenticity didn’t have a place inside the room. Therapeutic success was measured when the client(s) went outsideContinue reading “Relationship is the goal of therapy”

Complex Trauma

I work with numerous clients who are experiencing complex trauma. The paradox is that the source of the trauma stems from the betrayals of our loved ones, the inner circle of trust and safety. Due to the nature of the manifestation and its toil on mental/ emotional health, it takes a long time for traumaContinue reading “Complex Trauma”


An acrostic poem for trauma healing During a recent session, I recommend becoming self-centred to my client. I moved towards them in the virtual space between us. They, in response, had a visceral reaction to my ask. We spoke at length about the societal norms and meanings often associated with the word. It conjured upContinue reading “Self-centred”